If you are a normal young person, you are looking  for the "ideal mate."You want to find that special person created just for you in other words, "made in heaven." However, the theory that somewhere on earth is your "one and only" rests on very shaky evidence.
 A well adjusted person can marry any one of several persons and be happy. Probably an immature person could never be happily married to anyone. Marriage does not make an immature person mature , but happy and mature people do make successful marriages.
 Although the number of persons that you could successfully mate with is great, this does not mean that you could make a go of marriage with just anyone. You must  still choose wisely. What, then, should you look for in an ideal mate
Ten special factors  can tell you more about a person's marriageability than anything else. Here they are.

1. Superior happiness of parents.
2. Childhood happiness.
3. Lack on conflict with mother.
4. Home discipline that was firm but not harsh.
5. Strong attachment to mother.
6. Strong attachment to father.
7. Lack of conflict with father.
8. Parental frankness about matters of sex.
9. Infrequency and mildness of childhood punishment.
10. Premarital attitude toward sex that is free from disgust or aversion.

Many different studies have pointed out the importance of these factors, and you should not overlook them when you select a mate.

 Most likely the pattern you have already learned you will carry into your own marriage. You have learned from you parents how to settle problems when they arise, how to communicate , how to relate to children, how to handle finances , and how to handle all other issues of life.
 If you were raised in a family of constant bickering between parents , brothers, and sisters, you will probably carry  the same behavior over into your relationship. If your parents showed their superior happiness through loving words , kind deeds, and deep affection, you will  likely experience the same bliss.
 You are not absolutely bound by your background. You are no more guaranteed a happy marriage if your parents were very happy than you are guaranteed a poor marriage   if your parents were very happy . What is necessary, though, is that regardless of your background you approach marriage intelligently and work together toward  building a happy and successful relationship.