I wish you some of you males really understood what it really is like to be a girl growing up online.  It's why I don't spend as much time around as I would like to, well that and I like to get outside a lot.  I was online when I was 9 years old, and I was very very shy in real at that time (I grew up being sick all the time and in the Hospital a lot).  So there I was thinking how great this was that all these people were playing together, on a game that had mostly other kids on it, and people started to ask me for my phone number.  I wondered what harm it could do (how naive I was then) and gave it out along with my mailing address so people could mail me.  People who were my "female" friends in game would call and be older guys.  One man in his early 30's who knew I was 9 kept asking if I wanted to see his penis.  I kept refusing, and then he sent me a "surprise" picture once in email and there it was, his shriveled up small greasy penis.  Another man, in his late 40's, started to tell me how love was great because it knew no age boundries.  I was very shy, I was scared I'd lose the Internet (I was sure my Parents would take it away), I didn't tell my Parents like I should have, I didn't report these men in like I should have.  I thought I was the one who would get in trouble.  I know, it was stupid, but to be fair, I *was* 9.  At that time I never flirted with this guys, I never came on to them at all, I just wanted to make friends my own age and play and have fun. 

I *did* however flirt a little a few years later.  I started to see guys differently and trust them a little more at 11 and started to flirt a little.  This guy then got very very pushy and clingy and controlling and started to scare me, eventually I had to stop talking to him completely.  He had my mailing address though, and he actually came to my house, my real house, in person, and yes this really happened and there is a Police Report to proves it.  When you're 11 years old, staring at this 300 pound man with a giant deformed head who should not be there and is telling you "You shouldn't have flirted with me on the game if you didn't want me in real", your life flashes before your eyes.

The reality of being a girl online is getting hit on, A LOT.  No matter how much you try to get away from it, no matter how much you try to stay to yourself.  The only good thing about so many guys playing females online is that sometimes you blend into the crowd of them and get to just have fun and be left alone.  Most of us are here to have fun, socialize, and play a game.  It really sucks to get hit on 24/7 when online.  "Why not just play a male?"  Because, I don't enjoy playing the opposite sex like some of you do.  I can't imagine myself as a man and can't get into the game playing as one.  I'm not male, and I'm not going to play as one.  I did try it a few times but it didn't click with me.  "Why not just pretend that you're a guy so they leave you alone?"  Because I'm not a liar.  Yes, it's that simple.  And no, despite popular MALE belief, not all girls are sneaky and lie.  I am very honest, if I don't want to tell you something, I tell you I don't want to tell you instead of making something up.  That has brought me more grief than it it worth sticking to my principles though.  900 different guys all acting offended that I don't want to tell my age or personal details to someone I just met.  Great.  I want to talk about what is really happening in my life too, I shouldn't have to pretend to be anything other than what I really am, that's the whole point of it.

Being a real girl online isn't all peaches and creme like some of the guys pretending to be female think it is.  It's a much different reality when you actually are female, and just want to play and have fun and end up having to deal with these weirdos.  I'm not complaining about the "Virtual Construction Worker" type guy who whistles and hoots and makes a general comment as you go by, those type actually amuse me personally (although some people are offended by them).  I'm talking about the people who get deep and take this more seriously and try to move on to another level.

And if any younger girls are reading this, let me give you some tips from someone who was there and did the wrong things.  If someone seems like a good female friend online, it doesn't mean they actually are, no matter how much you believe it.  Be prepared for them to be male, and don't let them push you to meet them, or talk to them on the phone.  If someone says "Just talk to me on the phone to prove you're female" - tell them to go f themself.  I actually used to fall for that one and it has brought me a terrible amount of grief.  You don't want most of those weirdos knowing your number, trust me on that.  You're not going to spontaneously change into a male if you don't prove to that one person what your sex is, and no matter how they taunt you do not fall for it.  If they actually do not believe that girls are online, it's because they have so little social contact with females that they have no idea there are at least as many of us online as there are of them.  Seriously, all my personal real life female friends and I are ALL online playing games, and so is pretty much every other girl we know our age.  If they really are so socially in a hole that they don't know girls are online, they are someone who has problems that you don't need to deal with.  Many times, they KNOW you are female and are just trying to manipulate you into letting them get something out of you.  How could a young male possibly not know that the net is full of girls too?  They either are not really a young male (old pervert), are someone that socially has no contact with girls and is dangerous to speak to (closet psycho), or they are trying to manipulate you.  You never have to prove anything to anybody, it doesn't change reality.

We're not all Anime girls who look innocent but are just waiting for you to reach up our skirts while we have a look of surprise and a big wide open mouth from being embarassed and liking it at the same time.  Learn how to actually socialize with real girls and get this image out of your head!

Go outside, meet girls in real life, get to know them, really mingle with real people, stop hitting on girls online who have no interest in being hit on.  There are girls out there who do date guys they meet online, that happens all the time too, but you have to go about it right.  Get to know us first, become our friends, see if we get along, and see if we are looking for a guy in her life.  If so, that's a different story. 

I know that *most* guys online are normal.  They treat us polite and like any other human should treat another.  But we have less dealings with them than with the weirdos, because the pushy guys actively seek us out and bother us.  The nice guys just are quiet and leave us alone for the most part.  So yes, I do know that most of you guys out there are very normal and are decent people, this isn't about all males, but the pushy minority that cause so much trouble for girls online.

I'm also not blaming the Internet or online Gaming.  My Parents were the ones who let me online, unsupervised at a very young age.  And yet, it helped me more than it hurt me.  This blog may sound like a nightmare, but I've also made lifelong friendships online, I got through a part of my life where I was terribly sick and alone as a young girl where I wished I'd just die the Internet turned me around and gave me life and hope and let me be the same as everybody else online (I had health issues when growing up, right now I'm doing well though).  So the reality is the Internet is great, Online Gaming is wonderful, but I'm just speaking to a very specific type of person, that is the minority online, but they still don't have to do what they do (and I want to help other girls who may be younger than me to know how to avoid these people while still staying online and having fun!).

Purrs and kisses all! *meow* *purr*