boomp3.comSigh, sigh Alright this will be a pretty serious blog considering it hits very close to home for me. I saw the topic "How to date a gamer" and it disturbed me just a tad bit. However I was very relieved to see that some people did not agree with the whole "Dark side" always coming out of something especially games. It gets rather annoying when people turn around and blame every single little thing on games and such. Gets kind of sad at the same time. However this particular topic, well you would have to have a very weak relationship with whomever you are with in order to let a freakin' game split or even slightly tear you apart from one another.

This topic, or at least my blog is not talking about creating a relationship in the game like some games allow or even encourage with their different systems. Not at all, it's talking about people who are really together in the outside world and play games with one another.

I myself am a pretty intense gamer, as is my fiance Rachel. In fact in a lot of ways she is a better gamer then I am( i will admit that openly). We have been playing games together (not counting console games i mean seriously) MMO's I mean for going on two years now and we have never had an arguement regarding the game it just was not that serious. We have come to the understanding that you know what "it's just a game" Something put there to have fun with, and nothing more. Sure people can and will invest money in games, and if you are a game maker then it's more to it than having fun obviously. However for those who play it is to have fun (at least I would hope)

Aside from that the object was brought up about leveling and one getting ahead of the other. Sure this does happen, but in a relationship (a stable relationship) one significant other never thinks(no matter what) that the other is holding them back. It is just that simple, but once again this only applies to a mature relationship. Also men are always targeted as being the game addicts so I will address this as such. Any mature minded young man or even grown man would never put a game above the person they are with. ( this does not include relationships that have lasted a day or even a week something small like that not inclusive.) The person you say that you love should consume your life enough that you can push the keyboard away to spend time with them if asked, and to be honest as a man who takes pride in the woman (or other man) you are with you should want to spend time with them so you can either

A. Show them you care
B. Prove you haven't forgotten them.
C. Stay out of trouble.

Most would probably just go with C to be honest and that is just a laugh riot. Now I am not on a high horse because everyone makes mistakes including me. I had been playing an MMO while I was with Rachel and she was sitting next to me and said she was bored. I sat there for a moment and questioned then she told me she wanted to do something. So I exited the game closed the lap top and asked her what she wanted to do. However my point here is that my mistake would be letting it get to the point that she got bored.

As for women in this subject if you are not the gamer yourself. Know your man well enough to know if he will become obsessed with the new game. (I WOULD NEVER SUGGEST YOU BUY ONE FOR HIM UNLESS IT'S A SPECIAL OCCASION. B-DAY ETC...). If it is not his personality and he does happen to get too drawn into it. Pull him away from it gradually don't huff and puff about it. You of all people know what he likes in every form or fashion. Start showing him why he was with you to begin with and he will eventually dump the game (if not completely for a little while, or enough to be around you)

Men have fickle minds it's true. We hardly ever know what we really want although we will bluntly say " This is what I want and why" In our minds we typically second guess what we have decided. However our pride cuts in front of that and we always go with that decision instead of thinking it through. Some times we actually will think it through. That is probably where the brains over brawn idea came from. However I'm not saying we are stupid not at all. We just at times need to be reminded of who we love and why we love them. If in fact it is that deep. Hell even who we like and why.

I am not saying smoother your man if he is drawn away from you to a game nor am I saying for you men out there to do so. What I am suggesting is that you know enough about the person you are with to be able to keep their attention completely.

As for me and my gaming life with my sweet heart. We don't only play MMO's we do text based rping on sites such as gaiaonline(which has become a horrible trend and literacy has taken a downfall where writing comes into play.) But our MMO life does not conflict with our relationship at all. We grind together, do quests together. Honestly I don't mind when she gets ahead of me in games, but if I get ahead of her neither of us get mad I will either help her level or get on her character and level her that way. For some reason I like it when she's on top (level wise you perverts XD). Even when we make guilds she is the leader of the guild at all times.

I have reasoning for this: Even though I adore games and I enjoy playing them with her I always want to make sure she knows that she is more than just one knotch above the game we are playing in my book. So in result she knows she is more important to me.

This may be hard to do or believe but I don't really play the games when she is not on to play them with me. The games that we play together that is. Sure there are other MMO's I do play that she doesn't, and i either test them out and suggest them to her later or I just play them to have something to do between classes and to cut stress of work. It's that simple.

A game should NEVER be the reason behind the downfall of a relationship, and if it is. In any shape or form if it be the male or female's fault then that was not really a relationship. It was more of a happening that came and went.

These are just my thoughts, and of course as always you are welcomed to comment back I mean you will anyway lol. Just I would appreciate no flammage for personal views.

In a nut shell people it all comes down to the maturity level of the relationship.

~Joy to you all
Paradox(Destruction)

P.S. If you're wondering we use laptops to play games together<3
-Also I would like to give Kudos to "MewMew" for unknowingly inspiring me to create this blog due to their comment.